Reposted from @thebraincoach Our emotional health and the boundaries we set for ourselves are very closely related. Generally, the more well-defined our boundaries, the more we feel at peace mentally. Of course, it is not possible to control every situation in our lives, but in many interpersonal relationships, we have the ability to state that certain behaviors or actions will not be tolerated. Boundaries are our own personal limits on how people can treat us, how they can behave around us, and what they expect from us. This is very difficult, especially if you have lived most of your life in an enmeshed environment where you don’t see other people setting or respecting boundaries. When learning to set boundaries, the first step is to become self-aware of when you feel overwhelmed or mentally exhausted. Identify when you need more space, time, or self-respect. Once you have identified this, start setting simple but firm boundaries. It is important you use a kind and respectful tone when you communicate this. This will not be easy at first, but once you start implementing it more, you will notice how worthwhile it can be. ⠀ The goal is to use simple and direct language. There is no need to over-explain or defend. It is important to be firm, yet kind and pleasant. Your tone is everything here. For example, you may notice these example statements may come off rude if your underlying tone is unkind. But if you say the same statement in a gracious way, your words will be perceived in a respectful manner. If the other person still does not want to accept your boundary, repeat it again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Stand your ground and stay strong. If you give into the other person’s resistance, you invite him/her/them to ignore your needs. ⠀ What is most difficult for you when setting a boundary? Is it communicating concisely and kindly or is it dealing with the reaction of the receiver? Not everyone comes to therapy to talk....some come to be heard/understood/given space/feel safe *** Reposted from @collectivempowerment Let’s challenge our understanding of silence/active listening in relation to the ways in which it can act as a mechanism for fostering empathy. How can we begin to normalize the beauty of silence and the comfort in can bring in moments of distress? It can be confusing to know how to address questions that your children may come to you with. In regards to the current situation in Ukraine. Here are some tips that can help simplify the process.
*** 1. Give context to the conflict 2. Explain Canada's role and involvement 3. Refrain from demonizing whole nations We've all experienced that friend or family member that is a dumper....it isn't a fun time to listen to/support them. If you recognize yourself as a dumper, take time to read about healthy venting and make it a goal to improve the way you seek support from those around you.
What is an "attachment style"? Why is it important that I know about it? What parts of my life will it affect?
*** There's definitely lots to learn about your attachment style, and if you feel you have a good sense of where you may fit in these options, feel free to do some additional research or schedule a therapy session to delve deeper and connect your past to your present Many couples do not think about co-parenting counselling unless the relationship is already on the verge of separation, or after a divorce, but it is a wonderful way to be proactive in your relationship if you have the opportunity!
*** If you are in the midst of a separation or divorce however, or, if this has occurred within the last year, you may benefit from you and your partner seeking individual sessions with Nancy in order to navigate these new waters with your children and each other. *** VIRTUAL SESSIONS: EVENINGS AND WEEKENDS AVAILABLE *** Visit www.counsellingbrucecounty/coparenting for more information or to schedule a session with Nancy! Do you or does someone you know require treatment for anger management? Whether by choice or whether court-ordered, this 12-week counselling program may be what you are looking for. Sessions are individual and covered by most insurance companies. Read more about the program at www.counsellingbrucecounty.com/angermanagement
VIRTUAL ACROSS ONTARIO! Reposted from @p.bodii Reminder that your best is enough. You are not perfect, this journey isn't perfect. But you are still here, and you are still growing, even when it feels too slow or that the progress you are making isn't good enough. Give yourself the permission to go at your own pace, and remember you are no less worthy than others you may compare yourself with. You are not behind—you are exactly where you need to be, and you can keep going. I definitely struggle with the comparison piece. Believing that I am less than others who have already done what I have wanted to do. But! I have my own struggles, and my own challenges that I have had to work through and continue to work through! And other people have their own unique challenges as well, and we all cope with it in the best way we know how. It is important to reflect on that. I am not anyone else but me, and truly, I don't want to be. Now more than ever. I am learning to appreciate where I am now, while being hopeful for the future, as much as I can be. Gratitude is important too, noticing what I am proud of. Acknowledging the positive can really put things back into perspective, especially when the negative thoughts feel very one sided. I hope this little reminder helps, it is something I need to remind myself of too
Do you struggling with any of the following?
*anxiety *anxiety disorders such as social phobia, *obsessive-compulsive disorder or *post-traumatic stress disorder *depression *low self-esteem *irrational fears *hypochondria *substance misuse, such as smoking, drinking or other drug use *problem gambling eating disorders *insomnia *marriage or relationship problems *certain emotional or behavioural problems in children or teenagers. If so, CBT might be the right therapy for you! |
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