Reposted from @thebraincoach Our emotional health and the boundaries we set for ourselves are very closely related. Generally, the more well-defined our boundaries, the more we feel at peace mentally. Of course, it is not possible to control every situation in our lives, but in many interpersonal relationships, we have the ability to state that certain behaviors or actions will not be tolerated. Boundaries are our own personal limits on how people can treat us, how they can behave around us, and what they expect from us. This is very difficult, especially if you have lived most of your life in an enmeshed environment where you don’t see other people setting or respecting boundaries. When learning to set boundaries, the first step is to become self-aware of when you feel overwhelmed or mentally exhausted. Identify when you need more space, time, or self-respect. Once you have identified this, start setting simple but firm boundaries. It is important you use a kind and respectful tone when you communicate this. This will not be easy at first, but once you start implementing it more, you will notice how worthwhile it can be. ⠀ The goal is to use simple and direct language. There is no need to over-explain or defend. It is important to be firm, yet kind and pleasant. Your tone is everything here. For example, you may notice these example statements may come off rude if your underlying tone is unkind. But if you say the same statement in a gracious way, your words will be perceived in a respectful manner. If the other person still does not want to accept your boundary, repeat it again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Stand your ground and stay strong. If you give into the other person’s resistance, you invite him/her/them to ignore your needs. ⠀ What is most difficult for you when setting a boundary? Is it communicating concisely and kindly or is it dealing with the reaction of the receiver? Comments are closed.
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