"I" Statements

​“I” statements are a type of communication skill that can be helpful to learn from childhood through adulthood. If learned and used properly, it will reduce overall conflict in all personal and professional relationships.
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There are 3 parts of an “I” statement:
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I feel (emotion) + when (event) + because (thought about event)
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For example, "I felt sad yesterday when I told you I was sorry and you did not accept my apology, because I explained that it was an accident."
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The importance of “I” statements:
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1) When parents use these statements with children, they will feel less blamed and will be more likely to engage in conversation with their parents if they do not feel accused and embarrassed.
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2) When partners use these statements within a relationship, there is less defensiveness within conflict and more emotional connection
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3) When employers use these statements with their employees, the employee will not feel like a failure in their role and will understand how they can improve their performance in a non-threatening environment.